Betrayal, Bickering, and Bigotry are all negative influences on securing strong relationships. The following article highlights each of these “negatives” and the capacity they have to destroy friendships, marriages, love, and family ties.
If you’ve been following the series written by Levi Reiss, you’ll be able to see that building relationship takes a great deal of thought, effort, and time to achieve. And, for many of us, being able to foster sound relationships with others is not something that just occurs naturally. Sometimes we have to work hard to be successful at it.
Take a look at a relationship you have with someone in your life and see if these counter-productive aspects may be present. If so, it might be a great opportunity for you to re-think your actions and take steps to possibly repair any damage caused.
Pitfalls in Building Relationships, Commitment, and Love – Starting With “B” We continue with our series about avoiding the pitfalls in building interpersonal relationships, whether with family, coworkers, friends, or that special someone, continues. Committed, loving relationships do not just happen you need to trust your partner and at times even look for good night paragraphs for her just to make her smile. We know that there is no success secret, no checklist of things to do, and just as important things not to do. But we do have suggestions focusing on what you should avoid, now continuing with the letter B. B is for betraying. There is no better, or we should say worse way, to blast a relationship than to betray confidence.
When people count on you and you stab them in the back figuratively, of course, you can say bye-bye to that relationship. What may have taken years to develop can be destroyed in a matter of moments. It’s as simple as blabbing Betty Loves Barry. B is for bickering. You know the type, the kind of person who always has to be right, even on the tiniest issues. Can you look in the mirror and truly say that’s not you? If like most of us you can’t, you have some relationship work to do. Start now. You may pay a price for bickering today. Please note. I’m not asking you to be spineless, to give in on everything. B is for a bigot.
Bigotry is still much more of a problem than most people realize. It’s not only a question of being a nasty, prejudiced person. Bigotry is also taking the easy way out, of not having to make the effort of finding out who someone really is but instead just putting him or her into neat, easy-to-understand categories. Let me give you an example from my teaching career. Over the decades I have had only two students from such and such an ethnic group. The first was a very lazy young lady; the second was a really dishonest young man. I get a lot of lazy students but not many who are really dishonest.
So what should my attitude be if I get a third member of this group? The same as it should be for all my students, let’s get to know each other and see how you work. In conclusion, don’t be a bigot; let people earn your dislike. And remember, by not being prejudiced, by not being a bigot you may end up finding that someone from such and such a group is a fine person, and the feeling is mutual. Levi Reiss teaches computer classes in an Ontario French-language community college. He wrote ten computer and Internet books and now builds web sites. Visit his new site celebrating all kinds of love and relationships at LoveAmourLove.com. This site includes a great collection of English and French love quotes (with translations) and a wide range of articles on building and repairing love, family, and other relationships.
Developing and building sound relationships with the people in our lives is something that most, if not all of us, strive to accomplish and I hope that in some way Levi’s articles are encouraging you to think about how you’re trying to achieve these goals.
Building relationships, love, and commitment are all important aspects of our being – the ‘building blocks’ of a happy existence. Let’s get it right! I’d love to hear from you if you’d like to share your opinions on this topic.
